It's 2001. I am living in the Bay Area as a live in nanny. I had recently moved from Southern California after leaving a long term relationship that, instead of ending in marriage, ended in a discovery of infidelity and alcoholism (him, not me). I was 29 and figuring life out all over again. I was starting over.
The freedom of being single and making my own rules was intoxicating. In my off time, I would hop in the car with my Thomas Guide (for you youngins, that's what we used to figure out directions before the days of Google maps) and explore the Bay. I would get lost in the winding roads of Hillsborough and plunder through the fog in San Bruno. Drinks and dinner and my work bestie were in San Francisco. And the water was always nearby.
But my freedom was also lonely and isolating at times. I was relearning what life was all about and figuring out how I wanted to live it. I was torn between wanting to be in love again and not ever being in another relationship if I could help it. I was trying to find out who I was on my own terms and that was scary. Some days I was so proud of myself for breaking free from the life I was settling for and other days I just wanted a comfort I couldn't find.
And that's where Borders came into play.
For those that don't remember, or who aren't as ancient as I am, Borders was one of two big box bookstores that existed at the time. I would peruse the aisles, buying more books than I could handle and jotting down titles for future purchase. Then I would get lost in the music section. Back then, the music section had various CDs on display above shelves with headphones so that you could listen to samples of the songs. I would listen to every single CD on display and soak in every note and every word. This became my therapy and my medicine. This became my healing.
I could spend hours sifting through CD titles. Each new artist became like a friend that spoke my language. Lyrics became the bandage that would cover my past emotional wounds. They allowed me to feel and ease the sense of loneliness that was always somewhere beneath the surface. I began to write again. Poems started flowing from pen to paper after being lost for so long.
Some people go to a bar and drink away their sorrows. Some hit the gym and sweat out their aggressions. I drowned out the internal noise through cheap headphones in a bookstore on a Saturday night when nothing else seemed to work.
I will forever be indebted to bands like Travis, Zero 7, Nikka Costa, Keane and Leah Andreone (to name a few) for their talents. To this day, if I hear one of their songs from that time period I am immediately taken back to that transformative time in my life. I am eternally grateful that Borders existed and allowed me to dip into different genres back before it was as easy as a click of a button on the internet.
When I heard that Borders was closing its doors 10 years later, it was like losing a dear friend. It had been a lifesaver in the beginning and a place of comfort to go in the years after. So, thank you Borders of San Mateo, CA. You didn't judge a lost girl trying to figure out her place in the world. You offered her a safe space to search her soul and find her path.
(this post was inspired after hearing the above song after many years)